Hey Mama, Can I Sit With You? - Raising Up Wonder

Hey Mama, Can I Sit With You?

Mommy Group
Mama Tribe
Mom friends

These have been on my mind recently. Because I don't have a tribe. Right now I'm just a lone wolf running through the streets of motherhood. And it's lonely. I have a few friends that are moms. But we don't see each other enough. Maybe it's that our schedules are always conflicted. I have decided I'm going to change that though. This mama is going huntin' for her tribe!

20 year old pregnant Rachel {aka me} would have rolled her eyes at the idea of a mommy group. Sounds lame, sounds silly, doesn't really sound fun. I had friends...why do I need "mom" friends?

Well, guess what? Your current friends can't entirely empathize with you when your nipples are bleeding. Thats why.

I distinctly remember a time I had at the park with Avery. She was maybe two months old and I took her to walk around a local park/lake when we were living in Washington. We finished our walk and I parked the strolled under a shady tree. I couldn't help notice the group of moms across the way. Wearing babies and chasing around toddlers, I longed to just go over and say "HI I'M A MOM TOO BE MY FRIEND". But instead I left and went home. Why? I'm really not sure. I guess I was just scared they were going to look at me and say; "YOU CAN'T SIT WITH US." {yes like in Mean Girls} How silly is that?

10 months later and I'm still afraid of that same rejection. I'm not sure where I got this negative feeling. I can't help but feel like I'll be judged. Like the relationships will be fake, the friend ship won't be authentic, or I straight up won't be welcomed into the squad. {lol-ing at use of squad}

To be real, mama bears seem to be pretty clique-y. When I go to the really rad sports park the play ground is lined with groups. Just tight little circles of moms. And it's intimidating.

I've decided I'm going to be brave though! I'm going to find my tribe and I'd love for you to join me. Like literally, can we be friends?

I don't think we were meant to do this mother hood thing alone. I'm going to start at my local church! I will let you know how it goes in part II.

Thanks for hanging with me during nap time.

In love,